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I had to say goodbye to two good friends this week. Each of them are moving away from DC. One to another state, one across the world.

Having moved to a new city (one I’d never been to) in my late 20s, living outside of the city for the first year, and working from home — meeting people was something I had to put a lot of time and effort into. Luckily I’m social, and using twitter, blogs, and LinkedIn I have met a lot of amazing people in the DC area. But the older you get, the more particular you are with how you spend your time. So when you find those new friends that you just click with, when it feels like you’ve known them forever, and can instantly talk about anything — it’s just really sad to see them leave.

Obviously with technology it’s easy to keep up with people, but it’s not the same as getting an iced coffee at Dolcezza, or having a 4-hour brunch at Open City.

All of this got me thinking about how friendships change and evolve the older you get. I recently watched this video from Jerry’s Seinfeld’s series Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee, and had already known about Carl & Mel’s friendship which is so endearing. I still have two good friends from high school. We actually rarely talk, but when we do it’s like no time has passed. All of my friends that live in Kansas City I usually get to see a few times a year when I go back to visit (I’m actually going back to KC tomorrow!). And I look at friends that live elsewhere as a good excuse for a trip! I love to go see my friends in their environment, especially if it’s somewhere I’ve never been.

The older you get, the more you value your time, and the pickier you are about who you’ll spend it with. It’s an interesting transition from college where most people are up for any thing at any time. I try to still keep that youthful approach, so as to not look back and regret not doing things just because I was “feeling like I wanted to stay in.”

Even though I’ll see these ladies again and will keep in touch with them regularly, I’m sad they’re leaving. I have to try to not think about it to hard or I get a lump in my throat. Friendships are a weird, happy, fun, sad, vulnerable, and special thing.

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